7R. Making Out

Making Out – More than Just Foreplay

A tried and true way to still engage in sexual activity without the risk of penetration is making out or heavy petting.

Although we all love the visceral, carnal act of actual penetration, sometimes elongated foreplay is even sexier. Make it into a game. Wear sexy underwear and tease each other with dances.

Persian couple
Persian couple

The informal definition of making out is “to engage in sexual activity”. Therefore, it needs to be looked at as its sexual entity instead of simply a gateway to other acts.

Studies show that passionate kissing and making out are integral pieces of the puzzle when striving to create true intimacy. Women often report that hot and heavy 'dry humping' alone can be very exciting, without the expectation of penetration to follow.

A modern complaint about this form of foreplay is that it finishes too quickly before penetrative sex. This can easily be fixed with more attention to detail and enjoy the journey rather than going for the usual goal of penetration.

Passionate Kissing in Ancient Pompeii
Passionate Kissing in Ancient Pompeii

Non-penis-to-vagina activities are commonly seen as 'foreplay', even though they are usually very stimulating acts themselves. Society has designated them as a stepping-stone activity to prepare for the main event of penis/vagina penetration. However, it is important to get rid of the narrative and the stigmas about ‘foreplay’, and focus more on pleasure and connection rather than simply a means to an end.

We suggest that foreplay activities like dry humping can be complete in itself. Making out does not have to lead to penetrative lovemaking. By emphasizing foreplay as a sexual activity, it inevitably makes other acts such as traditional penetration more meaningful and all-encompassing.

Try behaving like stereotypical young people who want to 'do it' but cannot because penetrative sex is forbidden at their age and can come with huge consequences. Instead, young adults will feverishly and hungrily kiss and hump each other, often to the point of orgasm. Although it may seem juvenile, going back to the beginning might be exactly what you need. It can inflame sensuality in older adults and is one of the most powerful forms of foreplay.

Making Out - Image Courtesy of PLVTOSUN ART
Making Out - Image Courtesy of PLVTOSUN ART

One advantage of making out is that it is very versatile. It can be done in a variety of places. This allows for increased spontaneity within a relationship/partnership. An easy way to instill the energy and passion of making out is to do it more than just in the home. A couple's home is often one of the only places where they can make love.

When outside of the house, public displays of affection are often frowned upon in most societies. However, PDA in private/public settings such as at a private spot in a park, or night in your car can be exciting. It is fun to engage in pleasurable 'clothes on' activities that are a bit forbidden.

Passionate Kissing

Kissing is one of the most erotic acts. When done well it simulates the act of sex. It can sometimes be even more erotic and passionate.

So perhaps just dedicating one day to being like horny young people who want to 'do it' but can't bring an added spice into both partners' lives.

We suggest deep tongue kissing because it mimics sex — the wet, sucking, licking motions, as well as the sounds and caresses that go with it, get juices flowing and almost always kick-start sexual desires. Increased saliva flow is associated with higher arousal, which makes sense — the wetter, the better.

Experimentation within making out can also be valuable and ensure that you will never get tired of it.

Neck kissing is also highly enjoyable for both partners, but especially for women. The tissue around the ear and neck is very sensitive and awakens arousal in other areas of the body.

Keeping these ideas in mind, we hope that you can change up your sexual routine in the bedroom, or wherever you please because kissing can be done almost anywhere. It is a guaranteed method of birth control and is sure to satisfy your sexual desires as well.